To every little girl who dreams big: Yes, you can be anything you want—even president. Tonight is for you. -H pic.twitter.com/jq7fKlfwGV
— Hillary Clinton (@HillaryClinton) June 8, 2016
So, just for that, am happy! Guess now the battle begins.
To every little girl who dreams big: Yes, you can be anything you want—even president. Tonight is for you. -H pic.twitter.com/jq7fKlfwGV
— Hillary Clinton (@HillaryClinton) June 8, 2016
I take D to many playgroups. It's a lot of fun to put several toddlers in a room and see what happens. They all want the same toy the one kid discovered. The host often shares how her kid had never shown interest in that toy before, too! Some mothers work very hard to get their kid to share. I have witnessed toddlers get into a complete tug of war over a toy, screaming and shouting. Sometimes, we moms have also had to get into the tug of war to separate the screaming kids. This is an age where they don't understand the concept of sharing.
And yet we try place such importance to it. We keep trying, failing miserably. Once they learnt to share, we forget about how important this skill is in the world. It seems so trivial, a small thing. But if you see the numerous problems with the world today, it comes down to being unable to share.
Watching the news often makes me realise that not much has changed since toddlerhood.
Last week, I was home, and so watched the Republican Presidential candidates give their speeches at CPAC. I am not a conservative. But it's good to hear what the other side thinks. Additionally, I have low blood pressure and since their no cure for that except for adding salt to my food, this was a good solution. So, I listened.
At one point, Santorum made a claim that "climate change is a leftist scientific conspiracy to destroy America!" And he went on about this group uses the conservatives' sentimentality of being good stewards of this earth to gain power. I nearly fell out of my chair. Where has he lived in the last three decades? He referred to the positive correlation between energy consumption and standard of living and therefore we need to stop the "no-growth environmental radicalism".
hmmm... when people make such claims, there really is no way to argue. It leaves no room for a discussion. So, I return to the room this morning where D was enjoying her weekly music and movement class, filled with wild crazy toddlers in a room with lots of colourful balls and two small slides.
The two small slides required them to climb up the two steps and slide down and take turns. Some toddlers played with the colouful balls and quite a few were more excited about the slides. D was excited to crawl up the slide and slide down. We had to teach her that she had to climb up the stairs, slide, then get back of the line and go her turn. So, once she figured that out, everyone was happy!
As adults we also want the same "toy" - a comfortable life, with a house, car, running water, good health, the latest gadgets, and other consumables. But we live in a world where the resources are limited. So, we should relearn what our parents so painstakingly taught us - to share!
I had a form to fill out for school. It was the first form I had filled out. But there was one question for which I didn’t know the answer. Dad was around and I went to ask him for the answer.
“Dad, what caste are we?”
“Backward.” he replied. I diligently wrote it down, b-a-c-k-w-a-r-d feeling a lump in my stomach with disappointment as I couldn’t understand how we could be backward caste. At a time when we would boast about our dads, this came as utter punch in the stomach. Dad was afterall a scientist! How could we be backward class?! I just couldn’t understand. I stuffed the form in my school bag and sadly still in utter disbelief showed the form to some of my friends in class. Maybe they would say it was not true. They just looked at me puzzled and life went on.
I was 9 years old. And it was my first interaction with the world of class/caste system. I forgot about this incident and the next time I heard the word caste system was when we left India, 20 years ago and was asked about it by a fellow Italian American classmate. I was speechless. I didn’t know. This time I had asked my mom and she shared with me of how some people follow this system in India.
So, no we are not of backward caste. It was just my dad’s view of the whole system in place. I guess dad always thought they were asking his opinion on these forms.
I had completely forgotten this story until recently and shared it with my parents. They also don’t remember this incident. It’s funny how certain things trigger old memories. And with race and class a topic in this country, the many articles on the subject remind me of that time. In the debate at Washington Post, The ‘Two or More Races’ Dilemma, I have to agree with Shelby Steele.
“Identity politics is a cynical and dehumanizing business that, in the end, helps no one. Better to eliminate all such categories and leave race and identity in the private realm.”